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This book combines the world’s oldest wisdom with 21st century Positive Psychology research & insight to define what a healthy marriage is — and to give you practical steps to get one. Provides a clear guide to (1) why marriage can provide the most powerful and fulfilling source of human intimacy and happiness; (2) why we often fail to act in a way that makes marriage work; and (3) how we can establish great marriages – and fix broken ones – with proper understanding and attitude. Besides its power to create and foster love and happiness, marriage creates the #1 opportunity to enhance your conduct & character. Tapping into your capacity to give, and to communicate, a great marriage helps us build the best possible version of ourselves. The book’s Four Pillars of Giving — (1) keeping it fresh, (2) gratitude, (3) respect in all its forms, and (4) all depends on me — give a clear road map to how a successful marriage works, and the practical tools to bring it to life.

Highly readable and practical volume that is rooted in Jewish wisdom on the core ingredients of marital success. This book is Ideal for couples looking to make a good marriage even better, as well as those looking for fresh insight into strengthening a troubled marriage. This book is a treasure to building stronger marriages and positive relationships through a better understanding of your spouse and yourself, at every stage of marriage. Practical real-life examples and anecdotes make for easy reading and instant application!

The author shares his years of experience, counsel, and Torah-saturated outlook with his “Dear Daughter,” and he invites every other dear daughter to read over her shoulder. He does it superbly. The author’s palette is piled high with colorful and insightful anecdotes, and he uses them like an artist to illustrate his points. Many a marriage, many a child, many a family, and many a friendship will be enriched and made happier thanks to this book.

Men are right. The “relationship talk” does not help. Dr. Patricia Love’s and Dr. Steven Stosny’s How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness:
• Love is not about better communication. It’s about connection.
• You’ll never get a closer relationship with your man by talking to him like you talk to one of your girlfriends.
• Male emotions are like women’s sexuality: you can’t be too direct too quickly.
• There are four ways to connect with a man:touch, activity, sex, routines.
• Men want closer marriages just as much as women do,but not if they have to act like a woman.
• Talking makes women move closer; it makes men move away.
• The secret of the silent male is this: his wife supplies the meaning in his life.
• The stunning truth about love is that talking doesn’t help.
Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied this all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesn’t bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart.

The reason for this is that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work. A woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage can’t happen through words.

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require “trying to turn a man into a woman.” Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.