Just a few generations ago, before women began to almost universally work outside the home, and long before social media, women got together in groups for community issues like school and shul improvement, bikur cholim and chessed, as well as when they watched their children play. They fundraised as women for global issues like supporting Jews in the Holy Land, Russia and Europe. There was a sense of vision and responsibility that included, and fostered, strong connections among them, and to the Jewish people.
Today, much of that has been replaced with frantic schedules, little time for meaningful friendship, little energy for inspired marriage, disjointed, overtired parenting, and hardly any time for introspection, inspiration and re-dedication to the essential aspects of Jewish life.
This has led to a lessening of joie de vivre in the Orthodox community. And that, in turn, has caused a significant fraying of the sense of relevance and of commitment to Torah and mitzvos by those who lead observant lives.
In an environment where women need role models, kindness, inspiration, understanding and support more than ever, even the rebbetzin is overwhelmed and often working outside of her home. This has lead to a double fraying of female inspiration within the frum community: that of the laity and that of the leaders.